My Single Best Happiness Tip for Single Women
Jessica facepalmed as she sat alone in a bar across the street. She let out an exasperated sigh and then sipped one more time from her glass of alcohol. Why does everyone want to crucify me for being...
View ArticleThe Incredible Power of Personal Solitude
In 1845, Thoreau made his way to the wooded shores of Walden Pond in Concord, Massachusetts. He spent the next two years in partial seclusion, living among nature. Thoreau’s self-imposed sojourn had a...
View ArticleFinding Yourself Before Finding the One
Sometimes you have to learn to be happy alone. Then you can be happy with another. It’s not what you want to hear. I was the same way. I spent almost five years on my own right before I met my wife....
View ArticleThe Life Changing Benefits of Long Solitude Walks
Aerobic, strength building, endurance and vigorous exercises are great for your mind and body. But it’s not the only way to get back to your authentic self or achieve a healthy lifestyle. Long walks...
View ArticleUnderstanding the Teenage Desire for Solitude
KEY POINTS Smart, sensitive, creative teenagers passionately crave their solitude. This deep-seated need allows for thinking and creating—and also produces dangers. Teens need to find a healthy balance...
View ArticleHow I Found Solitude as a Mother of Two — and Why It Makes Me a Better Parent
Currently, I am sitting at a small table in a tiny cabin surrounded by the forest in a remote area of Northern Idaho. As I sip my coffee, I look out a picture window, drinking in the yellows of the...
View ArticleHearts Are Made to Break Most of the Time
In each thing there is an insinuation of death. Stillness, silence, serenity are all apprenticeships. — Federico Garcia Lorca I probably seem heartbroken To my still-new French neighbors, I must cut...
View ArticleLovers
Fun At Parties, Hell At Home For me, it’s the small things. The text replies with emojis. Making me laugh. Watching a new show. Giving me a few hours of solitude. Philosophizing. For me, I’m all about...
View ArticleCatch 2022
How wonderful that we have met with a paradox. Now we have some hope of making progress. ~Niels Bohr To me, being immersed in a good book is like being in beneficial psychotherapy: the most lasting and...
View ArticleThe Only Gift I Ever Ask For
Ok. I have to share something. I love a “good coffee” talk. I am after all a Jewish New Yorker…well, except I drink tea. I have to tell you what I got for the holidays. It wasn’t what I asked for,...
View ArticleThe Art of Being Alone With Your Thoughts Without Losing Your Mind
We live in a world that is constantly pushing for more. We want more time, more money, and more success. We want to do everything better, quicker, and with less effort. But what is often overlooked...
View ArticleThe Agony and Ecstasy of Solitude
I’m two steps away from being alone, which scares me to death. All it would take is a breakup and for my increasingly elderly mum to die, and that would be it: no anchor, no connection, just the vast...
View ArticleCreating a Slower Holiday Season
We’re in the midst of the holiday season, and with that can come a lot of abundance: Busier schedules, holiday parties, travel More eating, more drinking, more excess More shopping, more spending,...
View ArticleDo You Struggle With Loneliness? Maybe This’ll Help
Last night, I started watching The Martian (Netflix), a 2015 film starring Matt Damon. It’s an excellent story about a guy who gets left behind on Mars when the rest of the crew thinks he’s dead. As I...
View ArticleThis Is Why Sundays Are ‘My People-Free Zone’
Women need real moments of solitude and self-reflection to balance out how much of ourselves we give away. — Barbara De Angelis For some time, I’ve made Sundays my “People-Free Zone.” There are 6 days...
View ArticleHabits of the Heart and the Desire to Create
The vinyl is playing and, just like any other Saturday night, my to-do list hasn’t gotten any shorter. The house is empty but filled with memories. Beautiful memories. The front door is still in the...
View Article15 Reasons Why Older Men Are Embracing Solo Living
By Martha A. Lavallie Older men increasingly choose solitude over companionship in a striking shift from traditional expectations. Recent data shows that approximately 21% of older men in America...
View ArticleThe Paradox of Human Connection: Balancing Attachment and Detachment
Human beings are inherently driven by the need for connection, intimacy, and belonging, yet we also yearn for independence, inner peace, respect, solitude, and personal freedom. As a result, human...
View ArticleBeing Alone Has Its Benefits − a Psychologist Flips the Script on the...
By Virginia Thomas, Middlebury Over the past few years, experts have been sounding the alarm over how much time Americans spend alone. Statistics show that we’re choosing to be solitary for more of...
View ArticleA Radical Plan to Solve Men’s Loneliness
Men are desperately lonely today and everyone knows it. The fact that most studies show that men and women are equally lonely does not adequately address the unique qualities of men’s loneliness. We...
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